Monday, December 01, 2008

Calm and natural...

Due to the lack of ability to treat her widespread leukemia and the increasing number of side effects of the disease, the treatment of Erica’s disease has been stopped. At 9:35 this morning, she was taken off blood and platelet transfusions, anti-biotics and IV. She will be made comfortable with pain medication and whatever other means that the palliative care team here at Stanford suggest. At this moment, she is sleeping easily, very much at peace.

This is an extremely sad moment for us all. What Erica wanted most was to make this time “calm and natural”. Music will be played in the background, stories will be told, tears will be shed, laughs will be had.

At this point, for yourselves, do what is “calm and natural” as well. If that means hugging your closest loved one, going out and celebrating Erica’s life, commenting on the blog or whatever makes you comfortable, please do so. If that means flying to San Francisco, then that is what you should do. If you choose to do this, it is uncertain whether you will be able to see her or not, as family need to be with her, but being close to a group of Erica supporters may help the mourning process and commemorate the absolutely wonderful life she has lived.

We will keep updating the blog with any new information or changes that occur.

To lessen the burden on the family, please contact Jamie (805.501.1972) or myself (719.650.3258) with any questions.

With much love and sadness


Anonymous said...

Without a doubt, the Bay Area is mourning at this moment. The fog as rolled in and the streets are seemingly empty and quiet. It is calm and peaceful, just like Erica.

I know that as we all experience this tremendous loss, Erica's beautiful spirit is as vibrant and lively as ever.

I'm sending all my love and deepest sympathy for the family and all of you over at Stanford.

Love Shayna

Anonymous said...

Thinking of you, Erica old friend...
Love, David

P. said...

Erica ~ calm, peace and love are wished you on your journey. You are so special. Still praying ...

Katie Windle said...

Erica, my dear, I'm glad you are at peace and surrounded by loved ones.

I am with you always.

Love Katie

Anonymous said...

Jaci and Judy, You have both fought an extrorodinary fight right along with Erica. She is very lucky to have such a dedicated and loving family. Tracy and I talked yeasterday about what a healthy carefree teenager Erica was at St. Joe's. The memory of her infectious smile and energy will always be with us. There will always be a special place in our hearts for your family. Thank you for sharing her life with us.Deborah Mathis and Tracy Baca

Spenx said...

Glad to know you are calm, at rest, and peaceful right now Erica. I hope you know that you have impacted my life and countless others as well. May God give Jaci and the rest of your family strength and give you continuing peace on this journey.

Praying without ceasing,

John said...

i send along my sincerest prayers and thoughts, with the hope that the calm will envelope and protect you with some semblance of comfort.


Corinne said...

To Erica and all of her family and loved ones there in the hospital with her, i'm wishing you peace, and love and courage and strength. Thinking of you all and of the wonderful person at the center of all of this. She is unforgettable and inimitable.

Amy said...

The world will burn dimmer without Erica in it, that is for sure. Much peace and love to her and her family as she makes this journey. Erica and Jaci have taught us so much about love, gratitude and sisterhood over these past past two years. We continue to pray with them.

Anonymous said...

My deepest admiration and love go out to Erica, my most inspiring and most beautiful friend; to Judy, the sweetest and most caring mother and best friend to her daughters; to Jaci, the strongest and most giving sister that carries so much of Erica in her; to Jamie, the best friend Erica could wish to have; to Josh, the most loyal and loving partner to Erica; to Katie, to Adam, to Abdul, to Evelyn, to Teuta, to Shayna, to Akshay and to all the wonderful people who have built such a strong friendship through and around Erica. Calmly and naturally, my thoughts go to all of you now. Let us pray for peace for Erica.
Erica, you are and will remain the most inspiring person I have ever met; you have touched my life like no one ever has. I will close this circle of the last three years by coming to SF in a week to be with the people that have been with you - they all carry you with them, and I will come look for you in everyone of them. I miss you.

Holly Korbonski Oxy '84 said...

I am weeping reading your entry. I've read Erica's blog since her story appeared in the Occidental Magazine. I will call on the spirits to open a clear path between earth and eternity for your beautiful daughter, sister and friend. But trust that she will never truly leave the ones she loves. Peace.

Anonymous said...

Erica, Jaci and Judy, your family is an example of love to us all. I am so grateful and honored for having met Erica and having shared with her many wonderful moments.

I wish you peace and strength in this difficult time. I have chosen to take this moment to remember the happy, cheerful and brave person she has been and the amazing friend she is to all of us who know her.

You will never be forgotten, Erica. May God be with you and your loved ones. More prayers for you, my dear.

Much love,


Joyce said...

Erica, your beautiful spirit will forever live in our hearts. May Judy and Jaci and all those who love you find comfort in knowing you are calm and peaceful.

Our prayers and thoughts are with you. We love you.

Joyce and Kent

Georg, Stephanie & Liam said...

Erica & Family,
My heart aches, and I only knew Erica through email, snail mail and her lovely blog. I have been touched by this angel and inspired!! Offering up our love and peace your way.

We will be having a fundraiser for her documentary here in Sacramento. THis is our way of mouring the loss of a kindred soul such as Erica Murray!

Loss for words,

Drew said...

For now, even Washington, DC is calm...Erica's spirit has already had an enormous impact on the Fletcher community and it's pretty amazing, the many folks in San Francisco, Washington, Boston and (literally) hundreds of other places thinking of Erica right now. This city is so far from Stanford right now, but I feel very close at the same time and I want Erica to know about the inspiration I feel right now, inspiration spread around the world, thanks to her.

Anonymous said...

Erica my dearest,
This is a very sad day and I can’t get my thoughts away from you and all the lovely people you are surrounded with. You tough us so many things about life, tough us how to be strong, and were an inspiration for many of us. Now I pray to God not to let that strength leave us and I pray to God to carry you with peace throughout this journey.
Will always miss you, Teuta

Anonymous said...

We love you so much. May your journey be peaceful, surrounded by the love you so deserve. Thank you for letting us share in your journey here on Earth. I feel so honored to have been a part of your life. My family and I will treasure our memories of you. We will look up at the stars at night and know that one of them is you smiling down on us.

Peace and Love.

Anonymous said...


You have touched so many of us more than you can possibly imagine. We love you truly and deeply, and more than we could ever express in words. You will always be in our hearts.

Love, Chris

Anonymous said...

Although I am filled with sadness & I am also very thankfull. Its been years since Erica & I were close, but I still feel lucky to have been apart of her life. Sending love & strengh to Jaci, Judy, & all of your family & friends.
Tracy Bogue

christina said...

Erica and all her loved ones...I am sending my prayers and thoughts. I hope that it is calm and peaceful for all of you. Much love from Boston.


Anonymous said...

The last time I saw Erica she looked radiant, beautiful and full of life. I am so grateful that this image will be the one that endures in my mind. All of my love to you, Erica, and to your wonderful sister Jaci and the rest of your brave and loving family.

Peace & Love,
Melissa Thuma

Anonymous said...

I know another courageous, bright, extraordinary woman who chose to stop fighting her cancer exactly 18 years ago today (to the half hour you stopped treatment). She’s my mom, and I know she must be taking care of you as those of us here must stop.

I love you with all my heart.
Peace and Love to everyone here,

Claire (Bonnie's Nannie) said...

I have been thinking of you all day especially Erica, Jaci and your lovely Mum and am so sorry to read this post - my heart goes out to all of you.

Like so many others I have never had the pleasure of meeting you all but am so thankful to Erica and Jaci's Youtube song for bringing me to this blog, here I have met the most beautiful, loving family that I will ever get to meet.

Thank you so much Erica for sharing your journey with us, you have put up one hell of a fight and the strength and courage from you and your family has inspired so many of us around the world. You are such a beautiful soul - I wish you a peaceful journey surrounded by your loved ones and shall never forget your beautiful smile.

With all my love and prayers, Claire x

Anonymous said...

I feel so fortunate to have known and worked with Erica at Oxy. I will carry with me the sound of her laughter and the memory of her generous spirit.

Thanks to all of you for sharing your lives, hopes, dreams and fears through this blog. What a wonderful tribute to the amazing person that Erica is, and to the love that your family and friends have shared.

Wishing you peace and strength during this difficult time,

'99 and Oxy staff member

Anonymous said...

Wishing all of you strength in the days ahead. Mostly, I wish you happiness to cherish your time together.

Erika Myette said...

Erica and Family,

Our hearts and our prayers go to you in this time of love and sharing with your beautiful daughter, sister and friend. May you know the peace and strength that only God can provide, as witnessed through your wonderful family and friends, and of course, through Erica herself and her incredible presence.

All our love,
Erika Myette (wife of Michael-John, Fletcher '08) and family

Anonymous said...

Wishing you a calm and peaceful transition Erica - you have touched the lives of so many.

Love, Alison

Survivor08 said...

Erica and family,

I am one of the many who have followed you through the blog. I battled my own bout with cancer and have kept you in my thoughts and prayers as you go through yours. Your words and spirit have touched so many lives. I hope you know the imact you have left with so many. Peace and love to you, may God hold you all in the palm of his hand.

Survivor08 said...

Erica and family,

I am one of the many who have followed you through the blog. I battled my own bout with cancer and have kept you in my thoughts and prayers as you go through yours. Your words and spirit have touched so many lives. I hope you know the imact you have left with so many. Peace and love to you, may God hold you all in the palm of his hand.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Erica for continuing to share your experience and continuing to live such a principled and courageous life.

It is hard for me to imagine the strength that it takes for Jaci to continue these posts. That said, thank you Jaci for continuing Erica's project and sharing so much with this online community.

I have faith that Erica, Jaci, and their mom will navigate bravely through these sad days.

Please accept my love and prayers.

L Tefera, Oxy '95

Sarah Labowitz said...

With love and sadness, and hope for a peaceful journey.


Candace Ryan said...

I've followed Erica's journey since her feature in The Occidental magazine.

She has written her story across the hearts of so many; and I'm grateful to have witnessed the power of her spirit, which will continue on in those many hearts.

I continue to hold Erica, her family, and her friends in my thoughts and prayers during this sacred time.

Colombia said...

Eric you are always such a source of inspiration. I am so happy that you are with family and friends and so much love from sooo many people. May your journey be one of great love and peace.

artineh said...

I am one of many who love you, Erica. This world will not be the same without you in it and I am SO saddened every time I think about that possibility. The pain is unbearable and I just can't imagine what Jaci and Judy are going through right now. My entire family... Sev, my mom, Karineh, Lucy... we're ALL thinking of you and your family.

I hope that peace and calm is all that you feel right now and for the rest of the precious moments you spend with your family and closest of friends. I will be in the bay area this weekend. I'll come by on Saturday. And even if I can't see you, I hope to see others who love you as much as I do. I am so blessed to have you in my circle of friends.


Anonymous said...

may your family find strength and peace during this time. May Erica go peacefully knowing that people all across the world are holding her in their hearts yesterday, today, and the days to come. Your family encourages me to be a better sister, daughter and friend to those around me, and I am blessed to have known you all through this blog.

OXY grad '03

Divya said...
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Divya said...

Erica ~ You and your family are an inspiration to all. Thank you for having shared so much of yourself with us throughout this difficult experience. I'm sending you my warmest hug and thinking of you happy on our first days at Fletcher, three years ago.

To Erica's family - I had never before seen such an extraordinary example of love. Sending some love and strength back to you all.


Anonymous said...

Erica is a gift to everyone she knows, an inspiration.

Carisa (Oxy 00)

June said...

Erica, Jaci and Judy,

Love to you.

Anonymous said...


It's been too long since I've seen you, but in the middle of all this sadness I can't help but have tears of happiness reading the way you've touched so many people, hundreds you have never even met. BUT I'm not surprised. You're amazing, beautiful, brilliant and hilarious!

I had so much fun whenever Jaci and I came to visit you. And I will forever remember your kinda heart and goofy self that made us all laugh. All my memories of you hold you smiling :)

I guess sometimes God misses his best work too...I'll be praying for love, peace and comfort to surround you, Jaci, Judy and your whole family.

Love, Cassie

Nick said...

Blessed be the Murrays.

Anonymous said...

Erica, Judy & Jaci-

You're in our thoughts and prayers.

Marifin, Carlos & Jonah

Anonymous said...

Sending so much love and warmth to Erica and her family right now. Erica - you have so many admirers - I spent much of today reading many of the posts on this blog, and I am quite literally captivated by your spirit, humor, strength and intelligence. You are also absolutely gorgeous. Thank you for sharing your journey with us, and I hope you are resting easy with family at your side. - love from a Fletcher grad

alison said...

thinking of you and praying for you and your family. i'm glad you are with family and at peace. much love to you, your family & everyone who you've influenced around the world - so many! you are an amazing person and we've all been blessed to have known you.

Anonymous said...

All of my love and thoughts go out to Erica and her family during this impossible time. Please know that you are loved.


Laura Zusman said...

We are all sending love your way Erica.

Tina said...

Today is a real life example of how unfair, and unpredictable life really is. And also an example of that fact that life is never the way we plan it to be. We are humbled by the woman Erica is on so many levels and try to find peace in knowing that her light will never burn out. Our prayers are with you Erica, Jaci and Aunt Judy. Our family is here for you always.
With so much love, Jon and Tina Giannini

NCCPAleadership said...

i'm sending so much love erica. you are such a powerful person. we're all in awe.

-sarah morris

Carrie said...

Our God is powerful and I will pray for a miracle. Your family is incredible and I have gained from your journey.

berkeleyjess said...

my heart and prayers are with you all.
Jessica Kirkpatrick (Occidental c/o '02)

Tamu said...

I am deeply saddened by this turn of events, but I am strengthened by all of the love Erica and her family are receiving.

What wonderful friends and family, who know to keep the love going in that little room. Erica reminds me a lot of other people I know in the same situation, and I feel that she knows how much she is loved by so many. Keep feeling that love for her. Love never dies.

Joe.Karen said...

I don't know what to say. Except that I'm thinking of all of you and sending the biggest virtual hug that I can. You have no idea how much strength and encouragement I have received from reading about Erica and her zest for life... seeing photos of her beautiful smile... listening to her sing... enjoying her sassy sense of humor. It's also been a treat to see all of the love surrounding Erica from friends and family. Erica... you, your family, and your friends are all so amazingly beautiful. Thank you for sharing a bit of that with the world.

Much love,

Anonymous said...

Erica and Family,

Everyone at Fletcher and Tufts has you in our thoughts. We will continue to pray for you and your family, in order to grant you strength in this time of need.

The Fletcher Family

Anonymous said...

May you be comforted by knowing that so many people are thinking of Erica and her family right now. Erica, we are filling your room with peace and love.


Anonymous said...

The pain we feel
When someone leaves our lives
Is in direct proportion
To the joy they bring
While a part of our lives
Javan '84

To family and friends of Erica-
Be gentle with yourselves-
May Erica's spirit of courage and love sustain you at this time
Love and hugs, Sally (Josh's mom)

Adria said...

I am feeling blessed that I got to be so lucky as to have Erica as a wonderful roommate, friend and classmate here in Boston. Please tell her I love her. I am praying for strength and peace for all of you.

Much Love, Addie

Avital and said...

When I stop crying, I'm going to call and sing to you. It's all I have to give...

Jon said...


You fought bravely. I am lucky to have spent the time with you that I did. Your bright light will be sorely missed. All my love

Jon (Oregon)

Anonymous said...

Erica, I wish you peace and comfort as you make the last leg of your journey. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
-Hallie, Oxy '00

Ms. Schrepfer said...

Erica, thanks for being a good rugby teacher and o-team leader and beautiful person. Peace be with you. And your family and friends.

Red Kate

Anonymous said...

Hi Erica,

Although I never got to know you well, I"m a former Fletcher classmate of yours. My thoughts and wishes are with you and your family. It is moving to see how many lives you have touched. Thank you for sharing such a personal experience with everyone through your blog. I know you are in the thoughts of more people than you can imagine. I only wish the best, in whatever form that may be, for you and your family.


Anonymous said...

All our prayers for Erica, Jaci, Judy and all her families and friends during these last precious moments. May Erica have all the everlasting peace and love. Our thoughts are with you all.

Love, Charlotte & Bill

Dreaming on a Moonbeam said...

Erica ~

You have and will continue to touch countless lives...

~alicia '03

Casey said...

A beautiful song- one of my favorites:

You Are Mine

I will come to you in the silence
I will lift you from all your fear
You will hear My voice
I claim you as My choice
Be still, and know I am near

I am hope for all who are hopeless
I am eyes for all who long to see
In the shadows of the night,
I will be your light
Come and rest in Me

Do not be afraid, I am with you
I have called you each by name
Come and follow Me
I will bring you home
I love you and you are mine

I am strength for all the despairing
Healing for the ones who dwell in shame
All the blind will see, the lame will all run free
And all will know My name

I am the Word that leads all to freedom
I am the peace the world cannot give
I will call your name, embracing all your pain
Stand up, now, walk, and live

Do not be afraid, I am with you
I have called you each by name
Come and follow Me
I will bring you home
I love you and you are mine

Anonymous said...


You are such a beautiful and inspiring person and I feel so lucky to have known you. You have touched so many lives and have fought courageously. Thank you for sharing your life with us and showing us what love is all about.

Much aloha,

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing so many fun-filled, exciting, joyous, enlightening and beautiful moments with me back at Oxy and after. Like so many others, I will always cherish the memories we shared together.

Love always,


Khadija said...

Erica, sending you and your wonderful family all my love and prayers. You have been an inspiration, and I have no words to express my sadness and anguish.

But as one journey ends, another begins. And I know the love of your family and the wonderful memories you have shared with us all with give everyone strength in this trying time.

Love, Khadija

Katy said...

Erica and Family,

Sending calm and peaceful thoughts your way. I have said this before, but it still remains true--you are such an inspiration to so many, Erica. Much love to all of you.


Anonymous said...

Erica, you're in my hearts and prayers as you complete your journey. Your bright and beautiful spirit will continue to teach, inspire, and strengthen us. I'm glad that you're comfortable and calm and surrounded by peace and love.


Stephanie said...

To Erica and her family, we're all so very sorry to hear about Erica's latest condition. From someone who has been touched very personally by leukemia, my thoughts are with her, her family, and everyone who has been lucky to have known Erica.

Erica, you are beautiful and I am so thankful to have met you at Fletcher. You continue to be and always will be such an inspiration to all of us.

Wishing Erica and her family much love, strength, and peace -


Anonymous said...

Dearest Erica, Jaci and Judy,
Our thoughts and prayers for comfort and peace at this very sad time. Erica has been inspirational in this very arduous journey and Jaci & Judy you have shown tremendous strength. The love and care you have shown each other during all of this is an example to all of devotion and unrelentless love. Peace to each of you and please gently touch Erica for us with a message of love. Jim & Paula

Anonymous said...

Yours is such a generous and vibrant spirit, Erica. Thank you for sharing your journey. I only know you from the Oxy magazine, your blog, and the many posts of your family & friends. It is clear that you will be sorely missed, but also lovingly and joyfully remembered. May peace and love enfold you and go with you.

marilyn, oxy '72

Alicia said...

Sending prayers for calm, peace, and strength as you, Erica, and your family go through this difficult time. I did not know you personally, but have been tuning into your journey from here at Tufts. You are an inspiration, as are all your loved ones.

Your community is thinking of you and we are all heartbroken, but praying so hard. You deserve nothing less and so much more.


Anonymous said...

Praying extra hard that Erica's last moments on this earth are nothing but peaceful. Praying that those who know and love her somehow find peace during this tumultuous time.

Anonymous said...

Erica & Family,

I will pray for comfort, peace, and most importantly, steadfast faith.


Anonymous said...

Love to your family, who've been so lucky to have each other. Thinking of you at Tufts.

Anonymous said...

Erica, wishing you the best during these difficult times.


K said...

Don't know what to say other than you are so strong, Erica. May you be at peace.

Anonymous said...

Dear Erica,

That you have inspired so many who, like me, have never met you, is yet one more way in which you have touched more people than you can realize. I have heard so many wonderful things about you from Adam, and I have seen for myself from your blog what a radiant, beautiful person and unique gift you are.

My heart goes out to Erica and her family, who amaze and humble me with their courage.


Anonymous said...

My love and prayers are with you all. This is random, but i remembered the time i met Erica. It was a NYC night at Bob's and i clearly remember the love and high energy Jaqi and Erica shared with the rest of us there.

Con carino,

Chrissy said...

Erica - we are thinking about you and your amazing spirit and smiling face. You are an inspiration to so many people! We know we'll meet again.

Lots and lots of love,
Chrissy and Marc Goldberg

Kimbo said...

Erica, Aunty Judy and Jaci, I am so sorry I have not been able to come and be there with you all, this is just not fair to have happened to our family. Erica I still remember when you were a little girl and I would come over with my dad (Uncle Jim)to stay with you guys. You would follow me outside as I sat and did my toenails and you wanted me to do yours too. My dad (Uncle Jim)would always talk about his favorite little neice Erica. I wish we had seen more of each other growing up but our paths went different directions. Erica may your new journey be peaceful. Everytime I look up in the sky I will look for the brightest star, I will know that that is you. You are such an amazing young lady and you fought so hard.

I love you so much, my little cousin
hugs and kisses

Anonymous said...

You are such an amazingly strong woman that no one ever believed this time would come. You have impacted so many with your gracious spirit that no one who has met you shall ever forget you. Your beautiful smile will always be in our hearts and in our dreams.
You are all in our prayers, Erica, Jaci, and Judy.
Love, Kellie and James

saiph said...

Although I only met you a handful of times, the sheer intensity of the love our Fletcher classmates have for you has made your presence continually felt in my life for years. My cousin is also struggling with leukemia and I have looked to your emails and posts for inspiration, hope, and peace. Every time I participated in a fundraiser in your name, I never ceased to be moved by your passion, your deep understanding and love of life, and your capacity for laughter.

You have moved so many of us, Erica; you have touched so many lives. You are truly an amazing person who has left her mark on this wide world. I am awed and humbled by the love you have inspired in your family, your friends, and fortunate people like me who have come to know and care for you. Thank you, so much, for lighting our path.


Susan said...
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Susan said...

Dearest Erica,

I have learned so much from you and your journey in the last year and continue to be inspired by you. When I'm down or feeling defeated I often think, "What would Erica do in this situation?"

I want you to know how grateful I am to you for taking care of our Cathy. Cathy cherished the time she spent with you and I know you had a special relationship as you battled cancer together. You lit up her days with yoga, computer lessons, dinner parties and sharing your family and friends. You and your family made Cathy's last year exponentially brighter. In so many ways, you two are so similar - a light to everyone you have touched. Please give her a great big hug and kiss for me and my family when you reach her.

I love you so much, Erica. Thank you for your friendship. I will forever be touched by your presence in my life. I will continue to pray for you.


Yanni said...


Like many people here, I'm one of your blog follower. I don't know you, but I feel very close to you. I'm too, a leukemia survivor and in the midst of battling this disease. You are an inspiration to a lot of people and I'm one of them.

I'm sending you a lot of warm thoughts, prayer and love.


Nancy said...

Erica & Family,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

mercy said...

Erica your a beautiful women and i was very happy to know you.

Anonymous said...

erica, you are a beautiful person and you will find happiness and peace wherever you go in life and after. sunshine people like you are rare and not forgotten.

love, oxy grad 01

Moira said...

Dear Erica,

This is Moira from Maryknoll Class of 1967 and a friend of your mom Judy. My Classmates and I have been following your blog for quite some time and some of us tested to be your blood donor.

Father Louis Nichols of Mendocino, CA will be offering a special Mass for you tomorrow.

May the Angels guide you to everlasting peace.


Moira and the Maryknoll Class of 1967

Moira said...

Dear Erica,

This is Moira from Maryknoll Class of 1967 and a friend of your mom Judy. My Classmates and I have been following your blog for quite some time and some of us tested to be your blood donor.

Father Louis Nichols of Mendocino, CA will be offering a special Mass for you tomorrow.

May the Angels guide you to everlasting peace.


Moira and the Maryknoll Class of 1967

Anonymous said...

All my thoughts are with you, dear Erica, and your family and friends. I wish you so much strength and peace in this terribly diffcult time. Reading your blog is feeling all the love and admiration that is there for you. Andrea

Anonymous said...

The love that everyone has for you is so apparent; I hope that you feel the warmth and comfort in everyone's support for you. You are an incredible inspiration and I strive to be the incredible woman that you are. Thinking of you and your family...
Love, Oxy Grad 2002

Anonymous said...

So far from you in another part of the world, tonight, the sky was so beautiful with a very tiny moon crescent and two stars so bright and so close to the moon that they nearly touch it.
So strong in my heart, there is a star shining for you Erica.
So loving, calm and natural, peaceful and quiet, and eternal.

Anonymous said...

My first memory of college was your welcoming face greeting my family and I at the entrance to Occidental. After unpacking my room in Norris and saying goodbye to my parents, I headed down the steep hill to dinner. I was far from home and I think you sensed that because you jogged to catch up with me. We linked arms and talked about how miserable it was to walk up that hill.

That was about 10 years ago and so much has happened since then. If only I could have frozen time and prevented you from having to endure so much, so young.

Anonymous said...

Thinking of you Erica and your family. Our prayers are with you always.

Much Love,


Anonymous said...

Just a few of the many wonderful words that describe ERICA....
E--Extremely encouraging to others
R--Reaching out to others
I--Intense interest in others
C--Caring for others
A--Always attentive to others

Do you see?? This says how much Erica cared for "others"....even more than herself! God bless you Erica, for ALL that you have done for so many! It's very apparent that you cared for people so much more than yourself just by reading all of the comments! Blessings to you and your family at this time. -A dedicated prayer partner

Anonymous said...

Dear Erica,
Little fragments of long-ago memories of you come to mind, the one that sticks most is a moment when you and I were having lunch at a cafe near Denfert-Rochereau in Paris. And you took out your camera and snapped a picture of me eating my omelet and I remember being flattered, for a moment, that you, someone so spirited and beautiful, thought me a friend.

Thank you for all you have brought to this world. I wish you and your family and friends love, courage, peace.


Anonymous said...

Sending Thoughts and prayers from INDIANA, PA.
I have read your blog often ---

Anonymous said...


From you, I have learned so many things. I'm sending all my love and thoughts your way...

Anonymous said...

Ive been following your path...Im hoping and wishing you are at peace and not in discomfort...

I still remember the day we were trekking through omotesando in tokyo trying to find the place for yum cha...and then thanksgiving pumpkin pie!!!

my thoughts are with you and your family...


Anonymous said...

Erica, I wish you peace as you continue on your journey. Know that you are loved and your strength has been an inspiration to all. May you all find comfort in the prayers and love of so many. My thoughts are with you and your family at this time.

AB (Oxy '00)

Shaila said...

Thinking of you, Erica and your family at this very difficult time. I know you were in our A-100 class for a relatively short time, but in only a few weeks, so many people got to know and love the special, gentle and wonderful person you are.

Melissa said...

To Erica and her amazing family,
I am saddened beyond words, but wanted to send my love. I am keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
In love and light,
Melissa Nunez

Anonymous said...

How lucky you are! (Well, no, this blows, leukemia blows, all of this blows) BUT – How lucky that these moments right now are so filled with love, admiration, respect, and wonder. How lucky you are that you are not alone, you are not disappearing, you are surrounded by love and light and so many people who are touched by you, thinking of you, telling you how you affected them. You are still so bright and courageous that you are leading us all to be “calm and natural” when things are so the opposite, so abnormal, so un-natural, for a stunning, vivacious, young fighter like you. I hope you bask in this radiance of support and love.
And thank you. Thank you for this blog. Thank you for inspiring me, and so very many others. Thank you for sharing yourself, like you always do. And thank you for leading us all to be calm and normal, I envision you with a smile on your face and a calm in your heart – and only feel sorry for us, and that you won’t lead us further.
---gab (again)

Char said...

Jaci, I wish there was some way I could comfort you at this time. Erica is blessed to have so much love surrounding her. As always, I am sending love and prayers to you all.


Rachel said...

I heart Erica - I really do. And I feel so fortunate to have met her and to have been so positively influenced by her. I hope that she knows how much we all love her...and I hope her closest friends and family are enjoying their time with her. As everyone here has already noted, she really is special - I pray that she and her family are surrounded by peace and love (as I'm sure they are).

Sara Jablon Moked said...

Dear Erica,
I haven't met you, but I've heard so much about you from Josh and from Abby, and I wanted to leave a small note to wish you calmness. I am so saddened, and I am thinking of you and your family and friends.

Anonymous said...

By your grace, I come into your presence with simple, trusting assurance, certain of Your love for me.

In Your presense, all fear and insecurity melt away and deep hurts become healing memories.

Father in heaven, I breathe the breath of heaven deep inside my spirit. Your heaven flows through me.

May the light of Your glory be present with me throughout this day.

I love you, Father. The Lord is the one and only Great Healer.

His will shall be done.

Prayers are constantly being sent your way!

Justin Valentine said...


just watched the news clip you and Abby filmed for last year's Follies. Absolutely hilarious - just like you. Sending you tons of laughs and love.

krista said...

love, peace, and prayers to all of you today and in the days to come.

Anonymous said...

This is so sad. I keep wishing it weren't true. It's such a cliche when people say only the good die young...but I can't help thinking that right now. Of all the people on this earth, why Erica? Why now?

Danielle said...

I do not know Erica personally, but I came across this blog yesterday and it has touched me in so many ways. A friend had passed a few months ago, and this had been written so I want to share it with Erica's family. My love and prayers go out to you all.


that death will have no grasp on us
the fear will be feared no more
that when we die
it is to Life eternal
and our most bitter tears will be wiped away

we hope
therefore we live
for more than this
temporary existance

that peace like a river will flow
abundantly from Heaven
that the Creator
who commands the intricacies of the universe
who gives the order for stars to be born
who has restricted the ocean's grasping hand on thousands of shores
who has said to the is so
will give peace to those who have toiled in this temporary place
whose feet are weary from treading this mortal coil
will at last find their home forever

that though we, the remaining, are saddened by the loss
we too can rejoice that we will meet again
for this our sorrow is comforted
our mourning transformed into a peace that passes understanding

A3M Staff said...

We are thinking of you all during this difficult time. Erica, you have been a source of inspiration for all of us here at A3M.

A3M Staff

Anonymous said...

"Where there have been deep bonds we are bound to be together again and again, for love is eternal."

Those who love Erica and whom she loved will be with her again, for love is eternal.


Anonymous said...

"This world is not conclusion;
A sequel stands beyond."
- Emily Dickinson

I find myself going through my day unable to move my thoughts from Erica and all of the people she loved and loved her in return. I met her a handful of times while I was at Oxy, and she truly was one of the few truly good people in the world. I've followed her blog for two years, and my heart continues to break for all of you.

I wish I had the words to express myself - just know that another person is supporting you across the distance.

- 2004 Oxy Alumna

Susan C said...

I only know Erica through this blog, but I'm so sad and so sorry.

I fell in love with her the moment I saw her video about buying her mom a house.

With love and prayers,

Abby Wood said...

Oh Erica,

You have fought so hard, and with such incredible grace. I feel inadequate to honor you with words -- you're the wordsmith, not me.

A woman I admire, one of the few that could hold a candle to you, lost her battle with cancer this morning. I am so sad to lose her, as I am to lose you, but I am comforted knowing that she will prepare a way for you to whatever lies beyond this life.

Your body, like hers, just couldn't contain the vibrant spirit within. I am so sorry that I didn't have longer with you, and with Kathleen. But I am comforted by the thought that the two of you will meet (and cause much joyful havoc) in the next life, once you are freed of you battle-weary bodies.

I don't know how to tell you goodbye, and I know you don't want to hear it anyway. So, I'll tell you this: traveling mercies, dear friend. Thanks for sharing this part of your journey with us. We will miss you so much, so much.


miss_ako said...

Sam and I send our love to you and your family, Erica - we are thinking of you.

Anonymous said...

I'd like to share a quick Erica story/email.... 6 years ago, Erica wrote me a consoling email after my new cat (Hobbes) died, also talking about her cat (Bikini) who passed. Below is part of the email she sent me...

"and Kini is in pet heaven with her new best friend Hobbes and
they are having a blast together. For Kini, heaven is a giant shower,
just after a long steamy one, and she gets to roll around in the warmth
and dampness all day and night. I bet Hobbes has a huge smelly sandal
to chew on, a giant cardboard box to use as a jungle gym and as many
human beds as he wants to pee in. As Marlo Morgan says in a section
bordering on unexpected eloquence: "...freely the soul chooses to come, so
how can rules be just that say the soul cannot go home? It is not a
personality decision made in this manifested reality. It is an
eternal-level decision that is made by an all-knowing self."

Sending warm thoughts Erica,
David Rion

Anonymous said...

My prayers and thoughts are with you. Erica, I am glad you are at peace and surrounded by those you love. Thank you for your wonderful spirit and for inspiring so many. My prayers continue for the comfort of you and your family through these days.
Deepest sympathy and love,

Anonymous said...

I am not a blogger...I think I am intimidated by folks knowing my thoughts, somehow it makes me feel vulnerable, exposed.

One more reason I am constantly in awe of Erica's courage and strength. Her ability to take us along on the tragic and cruelly unfair journey she has been on these past few years, with grace, dignity, intelligence and humor is truly amazing. It speaks volumes about her strength, and her inner beauty that is matched so completely by that radiant smile she so often beams.

I think it is her smile, immediately engaging, immediately inviting and immediately warm that radiates and gives you a sense of comfort in her presence. In staff meetings I would often look across the table and see that smile, matched equally by her intelligence and enthusiasm, and I would think to myself - wow, she is something.I don't think I have ever known a more beautiful smile.

Yesterday, I passed by the cover of the Oxy magazine several times and felt a stabbing sensation. It is not right, it is not right, it is cruel, unfair, this is what my brain keeps saying. I could not stand the thought that this bright brilliant flame that is Erica could be dimming. Today, I, like so many of those who know her at Oxy, feel the tears well up and our sheer hopelessness in wanting to make things right.

But today my brain is also saying something else - each of us has a limited time on this planet, what we do in the lifetimes we have will define us. Erica, you have opened our minds and hearts by including us in your life these past two years. Your advocacy for bone marrow registries, the movie you are making, the song you posted on YouTube, the education you have provided to each and every one of us who have read your blog is not only transformative but inspirational. You have maturity beyond your years. You have taught me about, grace, beauty and courage in a completely new way...and you have taught so many of us to think differently. Because of this, I know your flame will never be dimmed. Thank you Erica. My love and thoughts are with you and your family...and my heart aches for all those who you have touched.



Clif said...

I haven't stopped thinking of you two for more than a few minutes all week.

Tifanie White Lythgoe said...

Erica, Jackie & Judy-
My heart is overflowing for Erica and you both. I pray for a miracle... but should it not happen I will trust that it's God's plan and timing to have Erica back with him. I am sure that everyone who knows Erica would agree that their lives were only better and more fun because of her. I hope that Erica is comfortable and feeling love right now. I'm sure she is. Please let me know if I can do anything for you. I love you very much. It seems like nothing is the right thing to say.

Caroline said...

My cousin Annie B. shared your blog so that we could send our prayers as well. Saying prayers for peace, comfort and endless love for Erica and all who love her.

Anonymous said...

Dear Erica,
I join the many others in sending my prayers and thoughts to you. You have made a difference in so many lives. I am grateful I had the chance to know you. I wish you peace.

Rae McCormick

Tim said...


Godspeed to you. Your life is an incredible gift to anyone blessed to know you. Godspeed...

Tim D.

Anonymous said...


I send all the love in my heart to you and your family. I feel so fortunate to have known you, if only for a little while and I am truly grateful for what you have taught me. I wish you a peaceful journey onward.

Stacie Quintanilla Miller
Oxy '01 '04

Anonymous said...

Dear Erica,

I'm a Fletcher grad as well and reading your blog, I am inspired by your strength and your example. You have touched so many people in a way that few individuals can. Your light will continue to shine in all of our hearts and I am praying that you and your friends and family are surrounded by warmth and comfort and peace.


Kellie said...

Oh Erica! You are an amazing and inspiring person. Words cannot express the sadness I feel. I will never forget your smiling face walking the halls in high school. You have truly made me think long and hard about what is important in life...
Kellie (Lutz)

Anonymous said...

Dear Judy and Jaci,
I've been reading this blog for many months now, since Cathy told me about it. My heart goes out to each and every one of you. Erica is loved by so many people, all over the world. I am amazed but not at all surprised. What a beautiful daughter you have raised. Her strength and courage has been an inspiration to so many, including Cathy.

I pray now that God gives each of you the peace and strength at this MOST difficult time. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers...


Carrie said...

Dear Erica,

Would that I could have as much of an impact on this world as you have. You have obviously inspired so many people, including me. I started at Fletcher the same year that you did, but one semester earlier. I did a joint degree, so my Fletcher years were spread out a bit more than usual and I was in Professor O'Neil's International Business Transactions course with you at Fletcher last fall/winter. I really regret not getting to know you better at that time. I remember being impressed by your enthusiasm for the course, even to the point of wanting to form a study group early on. Anyway, I think you are such an amazing person. Thanks so much for sharing a part of your life on this blog. I am thinking of you and your family and holding you all in my heart.

-Carrie Meyers

Susan and Judy said...

I have followed your journey with sadness, hope, and anger. Now, I am trying to be calm, but it's not easy. From Fletcher to California, your spirit and strength have been an inspiration for so many of us.

Erica, thank you for your smile and laughter.
Erica (and Jaci), thank you for your fine rendition of the Barenaked Ladies.
Erica, thank you for making your story public, so that we can worry with you, laugh with you, and now, share in your sadness.

I can't help but embrace some Eastern concepts right now... I see you in your next life as a serene lama, or, perhaps, a carefree dolphin. They never stop smiling, those lovely animals, and never do you.

With much love and affection to you and your family.


Anonymous said...

Erica, you have touched my heart although i didn't know you well at Fletcher. May God be with you and your family.

Anonymous said...

a dolphin...

Sandhya Gupta said...

Erica - I only knew you briefly at Fletcher, but I have been following your stories and sharing in the emotions of friends and loved ones through this blog. You have touched so many lives without even knowing it, and we will carry this with us, always. I wish you peace, light, laughter, and happiness.

Anonymous said...

From another Fletcher person who was touched by a passing acquaintance with Erica. It's amazing how much energy she was able to spread so quickly and to so many. My thoughts and prayers are with Erica and her family.

Anonymous said...

I have known you only through your blog...but I am so saddened that your journey in this life cannot be longer. Your mark on this world is so much more than just a footprint in the sand...even the strongest tide cannot erase what you have imparted on those lucky enough to have been touched by your life. My thoughts, prayers, and tears are with you and your family...peace be with you on your journey home, dear Erica.

Anonymous said...

I found your blog a while ago, and have been following Erica's journey for a while now. I am so sad to know about this turn... please know that I am sending love and prayers to Erica and your family.

With much love,

Amy Bruno

Alexis said...

Erica- I saw your You Tube video months ago and have added the video clip "If I had a marrow donor" to my Office's Cancer Club. We have been following your journey and in doing so we have had almost a dozen bone marrow dirves all over the nation.

We would like to extend a huge thank you for the effort you extended in getting marrow donors, not just for yourself but for the rest of the community as well. Because of you we had these drives, becasue of you we have at least 1000 new donors listed, becasue of you somebody will get the donor they need.

We are saddend by the situation that has come, but as you find peace and calmness, we honor you and your legacy. Thank you Erica and thank you to her family for the stregth they have offered to all of us...without even knowing.

Anonymous said...

I'm wearing my yellow Erica courage bracelet from two years ago, praying, and appreciating you. Peace be with you.


Anonymous said...

Dear Murray Family-
You do not know me but I have been following your blog for sometime. I wanted to let you know that you are in my prayers.
God Bless!

Anonymous said...

You don't know me, but I've been reading this blog for many months now... Wishing all of you peace and comfort through these difficult days.

Anonymous said...

Dear Erica -

I have gotten to know you only through your blog - and I am so saddened to read the most recent post. I am praying for a peaceful, light-filled transition for you. You are loved, and will remain loved.

With fondness.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for letting those of us who knew Erica, share in her journey. Our hearts and love go out to you all.

Nora and Brad McMillan said...

Erica and her family and friends,

You have all been an inspiration for your strength, courage, love and sense of hope. I will be thinking of you and will pray for peace and rest for you all.

Marcin said...

Erica, Jaci and Judy -

Sara and I continue to send our love and prayers! We miss you all.

With love,

FormosanWonderboy said...

I wish you strength and peace...

Former Stewie dorm resident who remembers Erica for her smile

Anonymous said...

My dear Erica - thank you and your family for inspiring all of us, touching our lives the way you did and reminding us of how much love and hope there is left in this world. I'm with you in my thoughts and prayers on your journey to the next great adventure. May it be calm and peaceful.

Until we meet again...

Love, Claudia

Nathalie said...

To Erica and her beautiful family,

I have not seen you since we were in high school and I have always remembered you smiling, sweet, and beautiful inside and out.

Your journey has truly changed me. My heart goes out to your family and my prayers go with you on your next journey.

With love, peace and light,
Nathalie Borrill

Anonymous said...

So sad. So brave. So many lives touched and hearts warmed. You are in my prayers and in the thoughts of so many still at Fletcher, who know you and wished so much for you.

kristina said...

dear erica: we did not know each other at oxy, but i have been following your blog for some time. i am in tears as i write. i wish you strength, peace, and unwaivering hope. and all the same to your family.

*tara said...


We don't know each other except that I've been following this blog for awhile. I sent you book and you sent me a really sweet note in the mail, and every time I see it I think of you and how inspiring and special a person you are. You've made my life a little more meaningful, and I thank you so much for that.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family and friends.

Emily said...

I was never close to you, Erica, during my days at Oxy. But just knowing you and following your journey through your blog made me feel that much closer to you and your family. You are a remarkable, strong individual that fought a good fight. Please be at peace, be calm. I send all my love, support, and calmness to you and your family.

Anonymous said...


You still shine my friend! Thanks for being you and touching the lives of so many people. You were so kind to me when others never wanted to get to know me.
The next journey is the best part!


Hahnibird said...

I only know your family through this site and only for the past day. A friend posted Erica and Jaci's bone marrow video on her Facebook page and I went to the blog to write some encouraging words when I read the last entry. My heart goes out to all of you. I don't mean to be intrusive during this terrible time but I came very, very close to dying during my transplant 16 years ago and I wanted to share with you my memories. My liver had failed and was tearing itself to pieces while my other organs were shutting down. I was heavily drugged but I remember being very, very much at peace. My poor body was a decimated war zone but I was completely ok. During the week before Christmas '92 I felt myself withdrawing from the world. A nurse asked me what it felt like and I remember telling her that it was if I was on a road that curved around a mountain. I had no idea what was around that curve but I knew with absolute certainty that the road continued. I'm very close to my sister and she has difficult reconciling her memories of how I appeared and acted on the outside with what I experienced on the inside. I can't explain why I didn't die. An experimental drug was tried and perhaps that made the difference but I hung in limbo for ten days before things started to turn around. My situation was different than Erica's because it was side effect of the treatment that was killing me rather than the cancer. I just wanted to share with you that I know that no matter what you see in front of you, Erica is safe. Her vibrant, beautiful spirit is intact and traveling on. She is going home and there is no describing the warmth and peace one feels on that path. Your loss is staggering but I hope you will be able to take comfort in knowing that her pain is coming to an end and her age of grace has begun. Be at peace and may her love for you bring you healing.

Anonymous said...

Erica has touched so many lives, her light will always shine.

Anonymous said...

I know you are 158 comments in so I don't know if you guys will see this.
In spring 2006, my senior year of college at OU, I googled my name (being Erica) to see what would come up. What came up changed my life forever. Ever since I began to checked this blog, almost daily, I began to care for Erica very deeply over time. I was in school to be a nurse and Erica inspired me to continue in my journey. I went as far as to also follow Eric's blog which went though Uma's life when she was recovering from her stoke because I care for Erica I cared for her friend. It sounds so weird but I feel like I know Erica through these past few years. I feel silly that she had know idea about me and I care so much about her. I know you all have heard so many times that Erica is an inspiration and she means so much to everyone but I want to make clear that Erica has taught me and been such an important person in my life. She taught me so much. I have read the last post but still have hope that there is still some hope to hold on too. I wish there was something I could to do help. Erica IS so important to people that are so far in the background may have been never realized. I still have hope.
~Erica from Pittsburgh

Anonymous said...

Erica dear,
while you are calmly in a state of limbo, you are giving us time to come to grips with what is yet to come. You allow us to reflect about the sense and senselessness of what is happening. You allow us to re-live in our memories many of the wonderful moments that we have lived with you. You seem to be giving us this moment of peace to realize what life is all about. Whatever happens now, E, the traces you have left in our hearts, the way you have inspired our souls will remain. You are a role model of courage, beauty, strength, generosity, optimism, and love for life. It is the latter that causes the greatest awe right now. Knowing how much you wanted to live, love, give, learn, discover, travel, dance. But it is this very love for life that is the most powerful lesson for me. Thank you.
I miss you terribly, my precious friend.

Erik said...

I keep coming back to read these comments constantly, and crying, and hoping, and loving, and praying. You bring so much goodness to the world, Erica, and I love you.

Anonymous said...

Dear Erica,
over these past few days, I have been playing the Barenaked Ladies in your honour, since it is the only song that I know to connect with you. I laugh every time I think of your "cats in heat" comment. Let me say this: your version is much better than the original! I am sad when I think of how you, out of all people, didn't find your perfect donor. But I smile when I remember how many more donors you recruited and how you have been able to make your sheer love for life shine through a simple song, your blog, your photos, your much praised smile. How you laughed in the face of this disease for so long, with so much conviction, giving all of us a reason to look at life with more hilarity. Thank you, in all sincerity, for sharing your journey with us.
Now I wish the same strength that you have shown for so long for your family and friends, your closest and dearest.
Much love and admiration from another Fletcher grad,

Anonymous said...

For Jaci, Judy, Jamie, and Josh,
Erica is so fortunate to have you, loved ones who have honored her wishes, no matter how difficult to honor. You joined Erica as she squeezed as much enjoyment as possible out of these last months, and you helped her create this amazing community of people who care about her. As much as we're thinking of Erica at this time, we're thinking of you, too.
Take care,
Jessica Daniels (from Fletcher)

Ethan said...

Peace be with you Erica...



Anonymous said...

For those who have never seen Jimmy V's speech on cancer and life, see below- it's a MUST watch. It encapsulates Erica's spirit so so much.


Anonymous said...

Though I don't know you or Erica I have followed her blogs and story for a long time. I helped with Marrow Drives and passed out fliers with Erica's lovely face.
I lost my wife to leukemia early this year and I'm sorry to know you're going through this, but also how peaceful the process can be.
My thoughts and prayers are with you. God bless you.

MKW said...

your joy, laughter, and spirit will continue to inspire all of us who have the gift of you in our lives.

Maggie Yum said...

No words can express my admiration for the family. I feel so handicapped not knowing what I can do to add value to you all. I will keep praying.
With love,
Maggie Yum

alikona said...

i first met erica toward the end of her time at oxy (maybe she had already graduated?) i tagged along with yumi to a small party at her house. we might have played scrabble...or something like that. erica was extremely gracious and made me feel very welcome. i was struck by her intelligence, confidence, maturity and beauty, and i wished then that i had met her earlier. she left a lasting impression on me, mainly of the type of person i hope to be one day.

i've been reading this blog since erica first fell ill, and i am deeply saddened to hear about this turn. brave erica and her devoted family are in my thoughts and prayers.

with love,
ali abbors
oxy '01
eugene, or

Anonymous said...

Hope you are in peace right now, surrounded by your loved ones and enjoying what moments you have on this earth until you make your journey to a bigger, brighter, and better place.

Oxy alum 01'

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing Erica's life and spirit through this blog. I am a friend of a friend, and have been following for a few months now. Sending peace across the country to Erica and her family.

Anonymous said...

I'am Josh's brother Adam and I had the privelage of meeting Erica once when she came to Vermont to visit us, I have a two year-old little girl Alexis and I was so impressed by the kind hearted interaction Erica had with my little girl. Erica made such a profound impression on me and my family. Erica played with Alexis the whole time she visited and Lexi warmed up to her istantly. In the short visit we had with Erica I could see all the warmth and kindness that Erica has given this world. I just wanted you to know Erica that my families thoughts and prayers are with you everyday.

Anonymous said...

I read through these comments in awe of the person who inspired them. While I never had the pleasure to meet Erica, I am honored to have been one of the many touched by her painful journey.

God Bless.

Mahendra said...

Viktor Frankl was a prisoner in a Nazi concentration camp. In his experiences, he saw how the Nazis consistently tried to take away everything from him and his fellow prisoners. But he concluded that they could not take everything, because as he stated in his book, "Man's Search For Meaning":

"We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms—to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way."

Erica has taught us this lesson everyday.

SBF said...

How absolutely beautiful these posts are. The love that we have for Erica is clearly correlated with her love for life. I am in simply in awe of the spirit that she is and the mark that she has left on this world.

Sheila said...

Coming to you by way of karen&joe's blog. Lots of prayers for peace for Erica and your whole family.

Anonymous said...

my love and prayer always. god bless you and your family.

Latika Ravi said...

I'm a friend of Josh. I never knew Erica personally, but this blog shows what a vivacious and fun-loving person she is. My heart goes to all of the family and friends who stayed with her through this journey. You are all an inspiration and the love you all displayed is truly amazing. All my love to you all

Anonymous said...

My heartfelf sympathy to you and your family during this extremely difficult time, peace and love to Erica... Donna Critchley

Sarah said...

I didn't know Erica. I only knew about her through stories and words from Clif. We in Indianapolis have been keeping abreast, curious as to the transitions and situations. I care for Clif, and I care for anyone who he cares for, and I know how much everyone loved Erica. Thank you for sharing her trials with the world, and thank you to Erica for making the world a little lighter, brighter, and better. Everyone in the Bay family is in our thoughts in Indianapolis.

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing Erica with the world. I never had the lucky chance to meet her or know her, but in reading how she touched the lives of so many, I feel my own life brightened and in turn, the benefit of knowing that true beauty exists in the world. Despite her trials and tribulations, her smile was always shining sincerely and without fail, a light that never wavered despite the dark cold fog of her disease, and only grew stronger with each adversity. She really showed that life is what you make of it, and hers was filled with nothing but love.
Thank you so much for sharing. I send you my prayers, my thoughts, and though I don't know you, my love.

Anonymous said...

I want to thank all of you who have left comments on this blog with stories of how Erica has touched your lives. Like Erik, I visit this site a few times each day to read the comments and have a good cry. I’ve been reticent to post here, I guess because I wanted to keep my thoughts and memories about my beloved friend private, but the comfort I’ve taken from others’ words has compelled me to post a story of my own; one that I just remembered! I first met Erica in 2004 while we were both in Japan; we taught English to kids at the same little school in the Tokyo suburbs. She was “the new teacher;” I think it must have been only her second or third day of work… At lunch, Erica had eaten some heavy-on-the-mayo seafood salad from the nearby bento shop and got terribly nauseous during her 2:00 class. At our supervisor’s behest, I begrudgingly taught the class for her while she lay on the floor trying to keep her lunch down. Having just met me, she apologized profusely and promised to return the favor if ever I needed it. The next day when I arrived at work, there was a box of Godiva chocolates waiting for me on the teachers’ table, with a note thanking me again for “rescuing” her. This small gesture endeared Erica to me immediately. I didn’t know her well at the time, but looking back, it speaks volumes to me about Erica’s kindness, generosity, and her amazing empathy. She became my best friend in Japan; she was my rock; my confidant. I cannot imagine, nor do I want to, what my time in Japan would have been without her. Erica’s spirit is pure love. I will always be in awe of her and the passion with which she lived her life.

I love you, Rica-chan. I will be watching for a glimpse of your beautiful spirit dancing in the clouds… -S

Schatzi said...

I pray that you may at peace and be held tight in God's hand. You are so loved and will never be forgotten. You make us all want to be stronger and live free. Thank you for being wonderful you!
God Bless You Love,

Anonymous said...

I don't know Erica, but I have been following her blog since I started at Fletcher in the fall. She really is an inspiration. And I can say that not even from having directly met her. Her courage and strength transcended her and it was felt in everyone who knew her.

It's times like these that I question, well everything. I, as I am sure is the same for many right now, just don't understand. What does it all mean? Why does this happen? What is the point? The first two questions I really have no answer to, but I think maybe the point is to leave a footprint bigger than yourself. To love and be loved. Erica did that more than most do with 80 years and she will never be forgotten for it.

I pray for you and hope you can find comfort in the wonderful things Erica did with her life eventhough it was cut so short. There will never be another.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry to hear about Erica's passing. I wish her loved ones the strength and courage to get through this very difficult time. As many people have said in their comments, Erica was someone who stood out for the very presence of life she exuded to everyone around her. I saw this first hand when she did volunteer interviews of prospective students for the Fletcher admissions office. Her beauty, her smile, her grace, her zeal for living life to the fullest was extraordinary. You will be dearly missed Erica!
-Former Fletcher staff member

Anonymous said...

Remembering Costa Rica and all the wonderful calm and natural memories you made here... we will miss you.

Love Diana

Anonymous said...

Erica, you are and always will be an inspiration to all of us. Thank you being the wonderful person you are and for teaching us about the valuable things in life. You will be dearly missed and always remembered.

Much love,

Stephany said...

It made my heart sad this morning when I arrived at work to see that Erica was no longer here. I hope that you all had a peaceful night, and are getting some much needed rest.

I feel privledged to have known and cared for Erica and her remarkable support team of family and friends. The love she received was a testament to the life she led. It is abundantly clear to everyone who crossed her path how her young life was treasured.

My thoughts are with Judy, Jaci, Josh, Jaime, and Everyone...
Stephany Rodriguez

Anonymous said...

I am honored to have known such a kind and wonderful person. Rest in Peace my dear sweet, Erica. You will me missed and never forgotten.
a Fletcher friend

Anonymous said...

Wait, why are people saying that Erica passed? Did someone from the family release that information? I scanned through the comments and do not see anything official... If Erica has indeed passed, will someone please let us know?

Anonymous said...

Although these words can and will not relieve the grieving process, rest assured that Erica is looking down upon us now with her brilliant smile.

Deepest sympathies to Erica's family and friends.

-The entire Fletcher Family

Anonymous said...

God bless Erica, her family, and loved ones.

Much love from a blog reader...

Susan said...
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Anonymous said...

Dear, dear Erica. May you rest in peace. My deepest condolences to Jaci, Judy, and all Erica's family and friends.

Anonymous said...


Love and kisses my sweet angel...
Missing you now and forever...

Judy, Jaci & Linda and all of the
people close to Erica I send you love and my deepest sympathy...


Anonymous said...

sending thoughts and prayers to erica's family and friends. i thank erica for opening up her life and sharing with all quite openly the pain and heartache of sickness and yet the joy and beauty of life. i barely knew her, but i was amazed by her strength. she has left a mark on this world stronger and more bright than most ever do. may she finally be at peace. -lenore

Anonymous said...

I never knew Erica, I only seen her video on YouTube. I was saddened to find out she passed away. I joined the marrow network last last June, and remember seeing her video and wishing I was a match for her. Erica remains an inspiration to friends and strangers alike through her touching video for people to join the Bone marrow network. Maybe I will meet you in heaven through Jesus. Until then, rest in peace unknown friend.